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What to do when you don't know what to do.



Have you ever felt stuck not knowing which way to turn next?


I have.


How we feel about a situation or ourselves comes from our thoughts, actions and experiences. This makes up some of what constitutes our mental wellbeing.


Sometimes when we feel stuck we can do what we always do or continue on the path of least resistance as changing our thought processes is painful even if we know that this is what we need to do.


Perhaps what you need is not immediate fully formed solutions, but solitude.


Solitude should not be confused with loneliness. The latter can be described as the pain of being alone, whereas the former is the joy of being alone.


Solitude is a conduit to achieve peace of mind and rest; a place where you can be your own companion and think about the world around you and who you are.


According to the Stoic philosophers, to be truly at peace you need to seek out solitary space where your senses can rest. Marcus Aurelius and Roman philosopher and playwright, Seneca, believed that serenity could only really be achieved when all stimulations had been removed. Although anachronistic, they would undoubtedly urge you to step away from technology, particularly your smart phone.


Marcus Aurelius wrote,


Nowhere you can go is more peaceful, more free of interruptions, than your own soul. Retreat to consult your own soul and then return to face what awaits you.


You should not fear time without others, instead you should make time for solitude in each day. Do you enjoy our own company? Do you fear time alone just with your own thoughts? If you are in a place where you do not like or love yourself, are you worried about spending time alone? Does spending time alone make you feel weird, lonely or unpopular? Do you fill up every spare moment with activities and plans to avoid doing ‘nothing'?


German-born Jewish-American political theorist, Hannah Arendt who escaped Germany during the Holocaust said that


Solitude is the human condition in which I keep myself company.

Henry David Thoreau, American author and philosopher stated that he loved to be alone,


I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.

Instead of fearing time alone, you should embrace it. Yo